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Boy Meets Girl

Par qianqian, 26/11/2009 à 8:58

By which way do you prefer to meet your Mr./Ms. Right?  Unexpected, toe-cured exciting chance-meet or well-arranged, sweatily awkward blind date?  The answer is obvious if you have options. However, in most cases you simply don't.

 

Still I never imagined that one day J would fell pray as a fresh, raw meat to the matchmaking lionesses, namely me. Ok, perhaps it is not fair to call myself as matchmaking lionesses. It is the second time I played this part---and I never really enjoyed it. I just couldn’t stand my auntie’s implorations. My auntie could be really persuasive when her son was involved, you know. To me J doesn't need any help with girls. Come on, it's J we are talking about. He is a cheerful, outgoing and ambitious young fellow, plus, he has good education, well-connected friends, and a promising career. All in all, he is, if not the best, at least the second best in the marriage mart. However, after three failed relationships---even it’s him who got cold feet---her mother doesn't have many faith left in him. And she turned me for help. I don’t see any urgency here, after all J is only 27 year old. However, you could never reason with a mum in this issue

 

It seemed to be a good match, but I changed my mind and had to admit that it was a disaster thirty minutes after they met. J was totally not himself and he almost broke all the rules of the blinddate. First, he was late. When I offered a reasonable excuse that he was busy at work, he said bluntly that it was his day off. Then, he kept ignoring his date and engaged us in a solo-style communication. His speech is as interesting as usual, yet totally not proper to impress a girl he just met. From the expression on S’s face, I could tell she stayed there only to be polite.  J finally took my hint and made moves, however the damage was already done and beyond any help to repair.

 

After it’s over, I asked him what the hell was going on. He said he was nervous! In fact, he was quite impressed like being hit by the lightening, but he didn’t know how to make right approach. After all it was his first time he met a girl this way and he just didn't know how to behave himself. Now I really believe that man is a fool in front of the girl he really cares about. Perhaps in another space, and in another time, if they could meet by chance, the result might be different. But never has there been a matchmaker, however experienced, who played the part of god. 

撩動思緒的心弦

Par qianqian, 03/09/2009 à 10:41
如今,我已是年近三十的人了,自己除了要履行做儿子孝敬父母的义务外,还要承担做丈夫和父亲的责任。有时候就连我自己都难以相信,昨天还与同学、朋友在高谈阔论着本来属于很遥远的事情,现实却真情的讲述着生活的每个细节,让人不得不为之感叹和慑服。人世间最真实的东西也莫过于每个人的生活历程,不管你是真情表白或者是藏在心底,都是那么真实,都会构成一幅完美的人生画卷,只不过是理解方式不同,自然就有人褒扬有人贬低,那倒也符合人性多元化的特征,否则,就构不成纷繁的五彩生活。如此推来就不难理解,不同时期的人对事物的把握、认识和理解就很可能或者说会产生不可预期的变化。现在当我回想自己几年来的生活,另自己感动的人决不仅仅是这些了,生活中的感动无处不在,无处不有。

  其实,我五年来的部队生涯凑巧的是在五个生活集体中度过的,就是在教导大队、指挥学校、两个消防中队和特勤中队。每个生活集体都会给我留下终生难忘的故事和感动,也是我步入消防部队不断成长的轨迹。从社会面上来盘点,像牛玉儒、任长霞、方永刚等一些耳熟能详的名字和他们动人的事迹也足以让人内心深深引起共鸣,单就消防近年来涌现出的许多英雄人物来说比如像金春明、杨丹等也让我们看到了消防人的难能可贵。更多的是多年来一个个牺牲在防火、灭火、抢险救援一线的年轻战友,深深的刺痛着我们每个人的心灵,他们用忠诚捍卫了誓言,用行动践行了人民消防为人民的庄严承诺,从此,红门上空的彩旗更加飘扬夺目,那抹橙色深深扎根于人民心中,永远给人以勇敢、无私、坚强、无畏和温暖。

  每天行走在教室、图书馆、饭堂、宿舍往返之间,好象和大学生活相比,殊途同归,都是为了学习,能够使自己知识更加丰富,更能适应当前消防部队形势发展的需要。但研究生生活不论从哪个方面与大学相比,的确是两个概念。从学习的角度来讲,让我从未感受到像现在这样对知识的渴望,现在完全钟情于把自己融入书本,有时候就连我自己都感到惊讶,时间和生活阅历对人的改变简直是神来妙笔,在你不知不觉的时候已经将你改变了。可能是由于自己工作了几年和已经走进了婚姻生活的缘故,也许和其他直接大学毕业就考入研究生的同学相比他们感觉不是很强烈或者说是没有诸如此类的感受,有时候不时的听他们会取笑我看书的认真劲儿。但要说真正启发我想写点什么,现在看来和同学杨国伟的亲密接触也有着打不开的情节,可能是由于我们都是来自西北,加之有太多共同话题,彼此都有一定的生活阅历,谈起来自然就有许多话题,每次不论是茶余饭后还是喝酒桌上我们总是聊的很开心,我也喜欢称他“老杨”,无论从工作经历、年龄他都比我长。面对研究生生活相对思想开放和独立的生活,自然大家都很乐意敞开心扉谈论时事、生活,不难看出他也有着很大的理想和抱负,只不过是命运和生活的现实有时候真的让人难以琢磨,正如毛泽东七律诗《人民解放军占领南京》中写的那样:“天若有情天亦老,人间正道是沧桑”。他会时常给我讲述自己生活的坎坷,还酷爱写时和随笔,因为他时常让我阅读许多他的作品。有趣的是,他也很酷爱在博客上写文章,小说、散文、诗歌、随笔……总之什么都有,他之所以喜欢写作可能缘于他大学期间所学的是文秘专业,这让我平时也喜欢在博客上写点自己见解和生活往事的“博民”与之产生了共鸣。有天我曾经写过一篇文章,可能更能代表我对老杨大哥的情感和对我的启发:愿意坚守这份来之不易的思绪。

  本来简单的吃顿晚餐似乎好像也是再平常不过的事情了,可是,今天的晚餐怎么也让我的思绪停不下来,总想写点什么的冲动早已迸发,很想拉近餐厅与宿舍的距离,这样把餐桌上的瞬间感想可能记录的更加清晰许多,也许可能急于想点东西的迫切愿望。坦率的讲,和领导、朋友、同学等诸如此类的饭局不胜枚举,但今天的饭局显然少了许多复杂的东西,人情、权利、利益……的确很不沾边。由于是周末,也许可能是研究生生活过于平淡或者寂寞,也许是自我清高生活的开端好像也不是那么令人满意,也许是对几年工作生活经历充满太多感慨,总之,一时很难以将它形容清楚。我便有了莫名的冲动,情不自禁的将自己的心早已安放在老杨和我常去吃饭的月色广场自助餐,不过,可能是杨兄、郝弟这样至少在我看来还是比较充满抱负而又饱含人生太多故事的才子,也许他们可能也有同感,三人共进晚餐谈论生活之道和做人哲理,让我感受到了莫大的快慰和感悟。

  按理来说,老杨、郝弟和我都有着不同的生活轨迹,要是真正谈论人生、事业、命运、成败不用说各有千秋,要说按“煮酒论英雄”的思维去推再恰当不过了,让我颇感收获的是两位的渊博知识,给了我莫大的启发,一时特别自信的我,顿时感到自己又从绿洲走向了沙漠,文思虽不能说是枯竭,但足以可以看出几年来也失去了许多学习提升自己才华的宝贵时光,心中悠然顿生愧意,原来生活总不会圆圆满满的把什么东西都给你,总会给你许多值得你去不断付出和追寻的东西。当然,这只是我应该早认识到的,只不过可能没有像今天这样强烈罢了。更为重要的是还有许多生活的哲理,其实,要是不假思索简单的讲出来大家谁都会不以为然,仔细推敲起来,还别有韵味,因为平时谈论的东西只是就事情本身而言,如果将思想的火花集中碰撞还真值得细细揣摩,原来,自己有时自以为是的坚持了许久的东西在大家坦诚的吹毛求疵下竟然那么不堪一击。老杨对生活始终保持如此平静甚至大彻大悟的诠释,我很是推崇,但总觉得这样风华正茂的年龄非要如此清楚的面对生活,给自己无形中增添了许多压力和负担,岂不是大器不成,锐气受挫。但现在看来,也不能一概而加以论之,因为,老杨、老郝所谈论的工作、生活哲理让我也一时陷入了迷茫。应该说老杨和老郝谈论的这些说实在的只是我感性的去加以解释了,可能凭借自己多年的生活阅历和经验,也勉强的应对过去,但总觉得心里还是不踏实,这毕竟给了我很大的触动,突然间我反省的认识到原来自己认识到的正如像老杨老在我面前提醒的那样,我只不过是在刻意高谈阔论自己时却极大的忽略了谈论问题本身的前提假设,片面的强调不同生活前提下的理性统一,仔细想来,实在是难为他们了。

  要说更大的触动,算是他们两人真情的给我讲述了他们各自成长道路上的辛酸和苦辣,表面看来,似乎他们也很爱追述和强调自己过去是多么的不幸和蹉跎。但长期以来,我真的也很感情用事,每每遇到这些事情都很动情,有时候即便是电影、电视剧,当然纪录片就更真实直观了,我也会很自然的将自己坎坷的人生经历自觉的与这些加以对比,总认为,成功的人总爱拿自己过去的事情说事,可能是中央电视台《艺术人生》栏目看多了的缘故,总觉得每个名人背后都蕴藏了无数动人的故事,定会让你心潮澎湃,感慨万千。现在看来,老杨和老郝也不约而同的将他们各自不平凡的人生经历看做是自己能够走向今天的资本之一。其实在这个问题上,我在酒桌上没有很主动的去和两位同仁争辩或者急于讲述自己的观点或者自己不平凡的生活履历。因为在这个问题上,我想秉持点自己的看法,现在看来,从古到今,大凡成功人士,都饱含了人间酸甜苦辣,好像没有那个人能够逃避这样的过程,可能只是人们对这个过程艰难程度的评价尺度或者标准不同罢了。幸好老郝接上老杨的话茬我只好侥幸逃脱讲述自己经历。

  保留自己意见的同时但我还是庆幸她们俩给我讲述了这么关于他们不为人知的感人故事,当然这毫无疑问的会给我很大的触动,毕竟无论从做朋友还是同学的角度,至少自己能够得到他们俩信任也是很好的收获了,这样我会从良好的自我满足的梦境中恍然回到现实,当然,这并不能说自己真的就这么过分自恋,对自己没有丝毫察觉,只是说不清楚,也许是人的本性所决定的吧,还想坚守最后一道防线,现在看来,已经微不足道了,毕竟老杨、老郝真实的生活哲理让我的心理防线彻底烟消云散,再不需要这样刻意的去袒护了,看来我更需要理性、成熟、真诚、客观的去看待每件事情,自己那份固有的感情色彩该让它渐渐淡去了,已经没什么色泽和耀眼的光芒,留着还有什么意义呢?也许默默到来的平静是生活更好的诠释,一切都会归真,更值得自己去永恒的坚守。
  
自研究生生活开始两个月以来,老杨大哥还给我介绍了他要好的学友柴春芽传奇的生活,让我在感慨和赞叹之余更加激发了我对写作的浓厚兴趣。我在网络上浏览了许多关于柴春芽的作品和故事,小说《慈航与远行》给我留下了深刻的影响。他曾是西安《华商报》、《南方周末》等报刊杂志的记者,后又陆续办过摄影展,他笔下的文章或者生活中的摄影作品几乎都是以反映社会生活中真实或者不和谐音符的,后来他又只身援藏支教,那种看破红尘超凡脱俗的做法真让人无不为之感叹,他似乎要用自己绵薄之力改变点什么,我也不敢妄加猜测,毕竟没有与其本人交谈过。
  
现在自己终于有时间静下心来做点学问,无可厚非,就是要研究点做人的道理和做事的方法,不管将来的成果如何,自己都会奋力去做。对往事的情怀没有丝毫的忘却,反而随着平凡枯燥生活的开始,注定就要天天和学习、写作结缘,随着研究生生活的拓展,这份对往昔的思绪会像屡屡轻烟萦绕在我的身边,让岁月的旅程从此不在孤独寂寞。

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Olympic torch relay is the last leg of Beijing. Beijing's transfer of its highest, most scenes, it is easy to be observed; not be easily observed, is its first choice rods torchbearers Yang Liwei, a bar and, finally, the torch lit the main torch Taiwan Li Ning The choice of action, revealed by what is.
Zhang Yimou-led grand opening ceremony of the Beijing Olympic Games, Pu Zhang, novelty and shock, is easy to feel; not be easily felt, is this the opening ceremony in the middle and the end of the creation of the "astronauts" and "Blue Planet" Images, to express what is.

In my opinion, the Beijing torch relay and opening of the next image, which is enshrined in China's space ambitions.

Yang Liwei is the first Chinese astronaut in space, he received the first rod Needless to say what it means; Li Ning received the final go-on, and finally ignited the main torch of Taiwan, he seems to have no relationship with space, but he ran from the ground To the sky, and a non-Earth attitude of weightlessness and floating state run, the show space is a natural step sandiegotown.

This torch relay to give the "Xinjinhuochuan" The history of civilization meaning. The torch of human civilization from ancient times Quhuo flint ignited the beginning, it naturally through hunting and fishing times, slash and burn times, nomadic era, the era of farming, has been to cross the sea trade era…… a short opening ceremony of the Chinese nation can not be displayed in All of these achievements in the era of civilization, but it "a splendid civilization" small paragraphs, showing a farming nation's great spirit of achievement - and to print "and" to the ethical connotations of civilization.

However, the history of the Chinese people, has never been a whole civilization into the ocean off the times. Into this era, is nearly 30 years of things, the opening ceremony of the "glorious era of" paragraphs, with lance-like blades Yuanshezhongyang describe this point. As a practical outcome of this age specific performance, China has nearly become the world's largest shipbuilding country, the Chinese navy started the first ocean-going trip, and really aware of the existence of the Indian Ocean talktopakho.

So far the human civilization, can be attributed to three basic modes: Cattle civilization, civilization and horseback deck civilization. No dispute that human beings have today the most important material achievements, as well as major achievements of civilization system is basically to create the deck of the nation. The first is the creation of three national Peninsula: the Balkans in ancient Greek city-states, the Apennine peninsula in the Italian city-states, the Iberian Peninsula Portugal and Spain Ocean countries, to replace them and the British Isles is Xiouhelan, followed by France and Germany. In Asia, has to participate in the deck of civilization created by Japan, Korea, Singapore, and living in Hong Kong and Taiwan of the Chinese nation.

Although the deck can go further than the horse, but compared with the warehouse space, unmatched. The United States is the master of the deck of civilization, but in the Soviet Union the first time in human history to send man into space, opening the era of human space after the first deck civilized nation felt a real crisis of survival. Eight years later, the United States to send its own astronauts on the moon before Songlekouqi.

China first sent people to participate in space travel while the United States than the Soviet Union 40 years later, but the Chinese do not enter space for others to read, it seems that for their own use. 40 years ago, the U.S. astronauts landing on the moon, mainly the United States and the Soviet Union in the space between the continuation of the Cold War, the pursuit of ideological interests. China's "Chang'e" Ben, is not only to look at the moon in the end there are no rabbits, nor is it in order to prove that such a system than the system of cattle, but would like to check out on the moon is not really a "medicine" , Can be cured on the planet, "the depletion of energy."

In the opening ceremony of the China Huazhou those around the start of the luminous body can "astronauts", in the shadow of blue lights, large pieces of curved line, much like the moon, or any other pending development of the planet. Up from the ground or the "blue planet" and also as the beginning of the Earth from space, travel to the detector, and then turn yellow, like Saturn, the blue end of the Earth, as if in the view from space To the homeland of mankind.

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Mountain and Water

Par qianqian, 20/06/2008 à 6:26
When the sad water flow into calm mountain as sad water, water's pitiful took down mountain, then their heart has broken to pieces in unison; Water labour contractor imbed underground, but the mountain keep piece pieces of the heart well. Then there is fan messy and complicated cave with stalactites and stalagmites, there is stalagmite in different poses and with different expressions, there are springs of the thumping of entrance to a cave.

 Mountain. The great man seeming to let everybody support, it is his true quality to be gracious, stand quietly, has dedicated the pure white white snow of Danggula Mountains, have dedicated the hot spring in Mount Huang, a sea of clouds, met guests loose; The mountain, believe silence is golden, he has no language, blameless, not repentant and not going, having no way of. But in the unseen world, are demonstrating the moving mythology for common people eternally, the most beautiful scenery.

Mountain and water are running side by side, letting soul tempered in the sand blown by the wind of years, samsara, experience. "Why will you flow straight? " The mountain is asked, " are not worth your breeding on good farmland of ten thousand qings? Is not the multifarious setback worth your facing? Are not ten thousand kinds of agony worth your dissolving? " ' water was not answered, just still enlarge the agony, roll up a thousand storeys of waves, flood the village, have publicizing ferociously.

Elegant fairy with water of water is moved, it is steady and deep and serious that there is mountain on the mountain. The integration of mountain and water is the quiet and moved setting off, dull and excellent change. Explore, in green competent boat under water, draw state of being middling among green hill.

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